Art of Flirting by Andre
Leblanc
The Magic of flirting
Flirting is the way most people determine whether or
not a member of the opposite sex is interested in
them. Following is a quick outline on how you should
go about the complex, sometimes fun, sometimes not
so fun, task of flirting. It all beings with your
approach.
The Approach
One person approaches the other. They move into
closer physical proximity. This much is clear: NO
approach equals NO possibility of initiating
contact. You must approach!
Example: A woman sits down next to a man in a coffee
shop, or a man stands near a woman in a dance club.
This is the first step. Once you approach, you begin
looking for the signs.
The Signs
The person who has been approached will always
signal the other’s presence in some way…a sign. This
signal is not like a train whistle, however, more a
subtle body language which you can learn to
recognize. For example, he or she simply may look
up, move over to make room, nod slightly, or signal
with a glancing eye contact.
A display of total obliviousness to the one who is
approaching generally indicates lack of interest
altogether. Don’t be discouraged. But if the one you
approached shows absolutely no interest, then it’s
time to re-group and try again. But let’s say the
approach works. You have your positive
acknowledgement, now what? Time to talk
The Verbal Exchange
The two people may then engage in a mild verbal
exchange about impersonal, unimportant matters such
as the weather or the scene around them. The key
word here is MILD.
This is the classic place for the clever “line,” but
cleverness is not required. At this point, a verbal
exchange is not for the purpose of sharing valuable
insights about life or determining philosophical
compatibility. It is just a vehicle to further the
developing contact.
Examples: Verbal overtures might include anything
from “please pass the pickles” to “your looking
great tonight”, to “have you seen the waitress?”.
Without some form of verbal response, it is highly
unlikely that the next step will occur. Let’s say
all is going as planned. Time for body language.
Body Language
Over a period of time, a couple that has begun to
talk may also begin to orient themselves physically
to one another, to turn toward one another until, if
all is goes well, they are fully facing one another.
This is your goal.
This step can take minutes or hours . . . or weeks
or months . . . to achieve. Yet, without this
physical reorientation toward one another, not very
much can ever happen, so give up on people who turn
their back toward you for long periods of time! But
if they don’t…
Touching
The woman or the man (most often the woman) touches
the other in a light, fleeting way. Examples: A
couple might accidentally brush their hands against
one another while reaching for a drink, or the woman
might pat the man on the arm in the middle of a
shared joke. The exchange of very subtle, almost
glancing touches may continue for some while, and if
all goes well, can escalate into the casual
affections shown by couples who are dating. If
you’ve reached this point, then flirting has now
become the beginning of a relationship. The Art of
Flirting should always end with the beginning of a
relationship. Now get out there and flirt.
The Art of Flirting is really the Art of making
first contact. You only have one shot at making a
great first impression. By following some of the
guidelines we’ve established in this article, you
should now be equipped to locate, approach, and
ascertain whether or not your subtle flirting has
opened the doors to a new and exciting relationship.
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